Thinking positive isn’t always easy. But, it is essential. Now, I’m not saying you need to be a cheerful ball of happiness every second of the day. Nor am I saying you need to fake your positivity on a particularly hard day. It simply means you choose to see the positive in every situation. Here are seven steps you can do to work towards a more positive thinking pattern:
1. We need to put our focus where our values are.
Try to focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want. One of the biggest mistakes we make when we are faced with a problem is we think and talk about it all of the time. Instead, we should docus our thinking on what we really want. This can be especially difficult when we’re faced with a problem and our instincts push us to tell everyone about what’s going on in our lives. But we need to put our focus where our values are and that means our conversations should mainly be about bettering ourselves, not about the negative events we are all faced with.
2. Recognize that every problem comes with a lesson.
There is a lesson to be learned from all that happens to us. Everything happens for a reason, and we need to accept that something ending is only making space for something new to begin. We can become a better person, even when things go wrong. Learn more about this here.
3. Choose to be grateful in everything.
Even though it’s hard to be thankful when things are going wrong, this is the time we need to be most grateful. When you start to feel down, making others feel good can help you feel good. We’ve all got stuff to be grateful for, and the more we choose gratitude, the happier we feel.
4. Don’t believe everything you think.
Our mind is constantly thinking things. And when we’re facing problems, our mind has a natural tendency to focus on those problems. But don’t believe everything you think, our problems aren’t as big as the mind tries to convince us. Don’t believe all those negative and self-destructive thoughts.
5. Forget about perfect.
Let go of your need for perfection. If you’re constantly trying to be perfect in everything you do, you will always hold yourself comparable to an imaginary standard. You’ll always feel like you’re failing and you’ll live with constant stress. Perfection doesn’t exist. Stop trying to be something you cannot be and just accept yourself and do your best.
6. Let go of resistance.
Accept things as they are. Realize that you don’t always have to challenge things. If you had a plan and it didn’t go your way, then accept things for what they are and don’t fight to change them. Life is not meant to be a struggle, or a constant battle ground. Learn more about the joy of detachment here.
7. Live in the present moment.
When you live fully and completely in this moment you’ll not only find that life is easier and much more relaxed, but you also live life to the fullest. Enjoy every moment for what it is and get out of your head!
Thank you so much for reading!