How To Stay Grounded

1. Breathe, breathe, breathe. Feel your lungs expand as you inhale and deflate as you exhale. Notice how your body changes as life flow in and out of your spirit. Allow it to bring you deeper into your body. Just breathe!

2. Look out your window and smile! Take a moment to appreciate the beauty of the earth. Let in some air, hear the birds, feel the chill of the wind, talk to the trees. Thank Her for all she provides you with. 

3. Move with no judgment or worry. Just feel your body, no matter how broken, tired, or aching it is. It is a safe and sacred place. Touch, feel, soothe, and move through every corner of your body. It is not the enemy!

4. Reconnect with the divine. Meditate, pray, visualize, journey deep into the realm of ritual. Transform this silent time into an altar for the divine. Find magic in the mundane, allow your imagination to guide you.

5. Choose yourself! Choose to feel your emotions, honor your needs, and entertain your desires. Sink into your needs and wants at this moment. What is your mind, body, and soul craving? Choose to honor yourself in every moment.

I hope that you all will find the peace you need! Seek it with all your heart and it will greet you with open arms. Thank you for reading.

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How To Stop Procrastinating

School is back in session and procrastination is on its way to all of our front doors. So, here are some tips to get past this semester and ace every class. Let’s set some high goals for ourselves. We are capable of anything and everything we set our minds to. With some effort, literally anything is possible. So, here goes the tips:

  • Realize that whatever you’re avoiding isn’t as bad as your mind makes it to be. Things are ALWAYS easier once you start doing them.
  • Plan to do a small and not too intimidating portion of the task.-Let’s say you have to read a book for an assignment. Then tell yourself to read 10 pages. Just 10. Later it will turn out to be easier to continue past that but now we need to trick your brain.
  • Count to 3 and GO! This is one of the smallest things that changed my life. When I really don’t want to do something I just count to three and do it. 3 seconds don’t give you time to doubt yourself and be afraid.
  • Change your surroundings accordingly. Try to get rid off as many distractions as you can and at the same time make sure your surrounding isn’t unbelievably boring and depressing. Try playing music without lyrics and try to make your study place aesthetically pleasing.
  • Get your phone away. Either delete your social media apps, turn off your phone, or at least put it out of your reach, or maybe even a different room.
  • Ask someone to check up on you. If you can, ask someone to come and kick you in the butt if they catch you procrastinating.
  • Take breaks that can’t turn into procrastination again. Go for a walk, clean something, or just lie down on the floor but no phone and no scrolling! Nothing addictive or time wasting/consuming.
  • Be kinder to yourself. Beating yourself up over procrastinating and calling yourself bad things will only make you feel shittier and less productive. Be gentle with yourself. Ask yourself to do things nicely.
  • Sometimes it is okay not to be productive. Blogs like mine can make you think that working all the time is the goal. But it’s not true at all. Sometimes procrastination can be a side effect of exhaustion or a mental illness even. Get some rest if you need it.

Thank you for reading.

How To Feel Less Stuck In Life

I don’t know about you but I certainly feel like I haven’t moved forward in life for months! Quarantine has us tied to our beds, seeing the world through windows or screens. Besides for the feeling stuck because of quarantine, we may feel stuck in our current situations. So, here are some small things you can do to feel less stuck where you are:

Go on a fitness journey. Start eating better,, start exercising or try new ways to move your body. Consistency and progress will make you feel better and more productive.

Change your daily routine. It could be just waking up earlier or switching things up in your routine. Breaking the repetitive pattern will help freshen things up.

Pick up a new hobby. Try something completely new or learn a new skill! Again, seeing progress even in smaller parts of life will be so beneficial to you.

Make things with your hands. Cook, make art, and build things. Leaving physical results that you can see behind is progress.

Spend more time with friends. Whether it’s to share new information, practice new skills, or just to get a good laugh.

Take care of something or someone. Take care of your pet, plants, or just help out local nature! Seeing something grow or learn to trust is an amazing feeling.

Thank you for reading.

How to Get and Keep Your Life Together 101

Here’s a list of all the tips, hacks, and advice that stuck with me from reading so many articles, videos and research. Feel free to ask me any questions, or add tips of your own.

Hydration. Make sure you stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water, green tea, and black tea everyday. I know you see this everywhere but it’s true. Just drinking water will do wonders for your skin and your overall health.

Nutrition. Maintain a healthy diet by letting go your toxic, restrictive beliefs on diet and realizing that food is sacred fuel for your body. So, offer your body the best and at lots of vegetables, fruits, nuts, and seeds. Essentially lots of wholefoods.

Incorporate smoothies into your mornings for extra dose of vitamins. Practice mindful, conscious eating, be there in the moment when you are eating, taste the food, and enjoy the experience of it. Meditate over your relationship with food and try to work through any unhealthy beliefs.

Exercise. Pick one or multiple forms of exercise that suits your schedule, lifestyle, and personality. Whether it’s jogging twice a week, going to the gym daily, or even just a fresh walk every evening. Pick what is suitable for YOU and keep it part of your life. Create your own gym routine, hire a trainer, train at home, or in the gym. Whatever works best for you.

Growth Mindset. Maintain a positive mindset that is always open and curious to learning new things, trying new skills, and ever willing to improve itself. Redirect your attention from drama, gossip, and toxic comparison beliefs to healthy ones. Unfollow accounts online or delete all your social media if that’s what you need to do.

Recreate yourself if that’s what you want. Focus on YOUR growth! Make a habit of reading new books, watching TedTalks, documentaries, etc. Look at educating yourself as a way to invest in yourself and a way to honor yourself. Maintain curiosity in your heart for the ways of the universe.

Stay humble and graceful in the face of adversity, but never give up on your dreams, failed attempts are only lessons for improvement, and the only true failure is giving up. As long as you keep going you’re still winning. Bonus tip: comparison is self harm, and a denial of your own power, so remember that nobody can be you and that’s a good thing. You can only be you, so make it count and honor yourself!

Relationships. Don’t cling to relationships and don’t be afraid to lose people. Be your authentic self at all times and do not be afraid to intimidate people or be too much! Those that matter don’t mind, and those that mind don’t matter. Know that the friends and partners that are meant for you will stay, or will find their way back to you. Be mindful of the dynamic in a relationship, and be self-loving enough to walk away from what is toxic, unhealthy, restrictive, disrespectful, etc. Forgive those that wronged you, but tolerate no mistreatment. You can forgive them from afar, but make sure they’re no longer a part of your life.

Focus & Goals. Keep a journal and as frequently as you can, write down bullet lists of to do lists, goals, dreams, daily reflections, aspects of yourself to improve upon, positive affirmations, wish-list etc. In other words, brainstorm all the things whirling around in your head regarding your own life. Remember all those things you’ve wanted to do? Bucket-lists, reminders, curiosities, etc? Keeping a journal, staying focused on your goals, checking progress, and practicing positive affirmations will transform your life.

Fashion. Elevate your wardrobe to a whole other level by sitting down and figuring out what your style actually is. Play around in your journal by creating a collage of your favorite colors, textures, patterns, styles, outfit combos, and accessories. Mix and match and figure out what your aesthetic is. Refine, polish, and thrift what doesn’t click. When you reorganize your wardrobe, you can easily mix and match anything because your wardrobe is already planned out. Bonus tip: do your laundry the same day every week (like Monday for example) and do a wardrobe prep on Sundays for the upcoming week so that at any moment you can be ready in five minutes looking perfectly polished. This avoids the whole ordeal of being stressed, rushed, and not knowing what to wear.

Skincare and hair care. Golden advice: invest in natural products, oils, and ingredients instead of investing in brands. Why? Because otherwise you’re paying for a concept instead of actual health benefits for your body. Try natural soaps, oils like shea butter, coconut oil, argan, avocado, jojoba, or rosehip, and water extracts like rosewater or hazelwater for toner. Coconut oil and argan oil is particularly famed for hair growth and shine. Castor oil as well helps hair growth, including for brows or lashes. Rosehip and shea heal discolorations, scars, and marks. Do your research, try out what fits you, and your skin will thank you later. Bonus tip: if you don’t use sunscreen already, try to incorporate it into your routine. Just make sure it has gentle, non-harmful ingredients for both yourself and the environment.

Etiquette, manners, poise, and posture. Watch videos, read books, or listen to audio books about confidence, proper etiquette, leadership skills, how to make people listen when you speak, etc. There are things which are so intuitive, obvious, and logical, and yet simply becoming aware of them and having the science of it explained will transform your perspective and the way you carry yourself.

Finances. Perform a monthly financial review to make sure you know where you are and what your budget is. Make a plan for backup funds, savings for travels, new tattoos, a house, or whatever you want. It doesn’t have to be complicated, you can keep things simple by listing your expenses in five categories like necessities, groceries, luxury, savings, and remaining funds. Keep track of your expenses or habits. There are even apps that show statistics or analysis for easy use. The point here is to stay on top of your own finances: know how much the monthly necessities are, know what has been payed, and keeping receipts.

Integrity. This means knowing yourself, having standards, knowing what your boundaries are, what you are willing, and not willing to do. When you know yourself and know your worth you won’t ever tolerate or accept anything less. Know what your principles, values, and beliefs are and hold them firmly because it is what you stand for. At the same time, it is important to keep an open mind to growth and improvement, but not so much that any persuasive argument will change your mind. Hold your own, but be gracious to other perspectives. And through it all, remember only you know what’s right for you and what’s best for you. Literally nobody else but you can know what’s in your best interest!

Efficiency & Improvement. This ties in with growth mindset but in a more practical way; make sure that you’re always leaving open space for improvement in your life and don’t ever just settle down, get stuck, or let yourself sink into complacency. Know that you can always change anything! Make a habit of frequently reviewing aspects of your life to see whether there’s anything you can make easier or more efficient. Instead of spending hours grocery shopping, check out shops online where your favorite products can be home delivered in a snap. Instead of driving to a vet for your pet, have a call in visit. Setting up recurring payments for finances also counts. Literally any process or activity whereby you can automatize a service, delivery, payment, etc. will help you in the long run, so you can focus more on enjoying life, instead of wasting time with trivial adult activities.

Thank you for reading!

Felling Energetically Stuck? 4 Reasons Why The Law of Attraction Hasn’t Worked For You

In the spiritual community, we have all come across the philosophical concept behind the Law of Attraction; whether we have used it or not. The majority of us have, I have to say for one thing or another. Most of the time, we use the Law of Attraction to help us find a solution to problem or current situation. This is where the problem lies when it comes to manifestation. We often use the Law of Attraction in times of desperation, like lack of money, loss of a partner, or job. When it comes to using the Law of Attraction, you have to remember that the universe acts like a mirror; so whatever perception you have of a particular situation, you will receive it whether it is positive or negative in nature.

You often find that many people who use this concept ask for abundance or their soulmate without doing the prerequisites beforehand. This means on a soul and energetic level, you must clear away any negative beliefs and deep rooted fears that reside in your subconscious mind. Negative thoughts and beliefs can creep up into our conscious mind at any point, and they can be about anything that has happened to us. Most of the time, they are negative memories that have been stored into our brain over a period of time. This is known as our inner critic – the root of fear, low self-confidence, and self-sabotage.

Our ego and wounded child use this tactic to keep us in our comfort zone and safe place. However, it doesn’t serve us when it comes to attracting positive things to our lives. Having fear when you are manifesting is like starving a flame from having oxygen – it just doesn’t work. You need to feed your subconscious mind with positive thoughts before you begin to start manifesting things into your life. However, this can take a while, especially if you have had a difficult past, and sometimes it may require the assistance of a professional.

Here are the four main reasons why the Law of Attraction hasn’t worked for you:

1. Using the Law of Attraction out of desperation. As I have just mentioned before, the universe works like a mirror, so when you try to manifest something out of pure desperation; what you desire will become further and further away. This is because the feeling of desperation comes from the essence of fear and control. When we become desperate; we are afraid of losing someone or something out of fear, so we try chase the energetic flow, only to eventually find out that its not going to come into fruition. It is a bit like trying to chase an optical illusion; like a rainbow for instance. It just doesn’t work at all on an energetic level.

Law of Attraction Hack #1: Instead of chasing and being desperate for positive changes, you must remember that you must surrender to the flow of life. When you let go of control and fear, you will become much more lighter and happier, which in the long term will help you attract the things that you truly desire in your life. It’s like what the old saying always says: “Things come into your life when you least expect them”. So surrender to the flow of life and you will begin to see more abundance happening around you.

2. Expecting what you desire to come to you on a plate without physically pursuing it in the real world. This is like asking the universe to give someone their dream job or romantic partner and expecting it to be on their doorstep. In the real world, it just doesn’t work like that unfortunately. You have to do the dirty work first, so that you can receive what you desire. This is particularly the case when it comes to finding the ideal partner. We would rather daydream about them instead of physically going through the dating process because deep down, we find it too overwhelming and stressful.

Law of Attraction Hack #2: Get out there! Let yourself be seen and heard! Do not be afraid or fearful about what you are doing! See it as a positive step forward to where you want to be in your life and within yourself. Whether that is finding a new home, job, or relationship. Whatever it maybe, make yourself known!

3. Being far too specific and unrealistic about what you want from the universe. In some ways, I do think having expectations to some degree or another is a good thing. However, when it comes to manifesting, we can get carried away with the little details instead of focusing on the most important parts. This is very common especially when you want to ask the universe for a lover or a dream home. Remember that perfection doesn’t exist. See the beauty in the imperfections and let go of unrealistic high expectations you may have of yourself and the universe around you. Nothing in this world is perfect.

Law of Attraction Hack #3: Write down your top five most important qualities, policies, values or traits you desire in a person or in a company you wish to work for. You can even use this method to help you manifest your dream family home too. By doing it this way, you don’t overthink and stress over what you desire – you just let go and allow yourself to trust the universe. Simplicity is always the best method when it comes to using the Law of Attraction.

4. Having negative thoughts or self-doubt when manifesting. Much like desperation, having negative thoughts and beliefs when you want to attract something into your life will instantly prevent you from receiving it from the universe. Negative energy and self-doubt do not serve you any purpose – all it leads to is anxiety, stress, and depression. When you tell the universe that you subconsciously do not believe you deserve what you desire you are basically telling it not to manifest it in the real world. Let go of your ego and have faith and trust in the universe. You deserve to have what you want in your life. You deserve to have what will make you happy.

Law of Attraction Hack #4: This is most probably the most challenging hacks on this list so far, as this requires continuous effort to undo the negative beliefs and thoughts that have been ingrained into us when we were children. Healing from these dysfunctional thought patterns can take time and sometimes requires a professional. Try meditating and different healing exercises. When it comes to healing from negative beliefs and past traumas, you want to heal your inner child. This is the center of your insecurities, fear, and doubt. Once you heal from your past, you will begin to attract the things that vibrate on the same level as you.

Thank you so much for reading.

Difference Between Manifesting With The Ego And The Spirit

Ego says, “If I manifest a new house, a relationship of my dreams, my dream career, more money, and everything I desire, then I’ll finally be happy.” Spirit says, “I am happy now, and that’s why all the things I desire will come to me naturally as a result of my internal state.”

This the reason why so many people can’t manifest or have difficulties with understanding the law of attraction. You can’t look for happiness outside yourself. You can’t wait for a material thing, a person, or perfect circumstances to make you happy. Happiness is an internal state, you can choose to be happy no matter what. You can consciously choose to change your frequency. When you change your vibrational frequency, everything in your life aligns with this new frequency. Real change always comes from within.

You can’t manifest anything in a state of lack. You have to feel full and content within to create anything new without. The Universe always gives you more of what you are focusing on. If you feel like only the external things can make you happy, you’ll always be chasing happiness, you’ll never achieve fulfillment. That’s why you should practice gratitude every single day. It will help you achieve a state of abundance; you will realize how much you already have. Learn how to appreciate every little thing, and your life will be truly magical and full of happiness.

Thank you for reading!

How To Detach

Lets talk about a concept that many of us struggle with. When going through the manifestation process, detachment is often the one thing we struggle with most. ‘Detachment’ refers to the act of letting go of your attachment, obsession, and preoccupation of whatever you’re desiring. 

Why Is It Important To Detach?

Manifestation is all about finding our own power through our relationship with the Universe. It is about co-creating with and trusting in the Universe. By anxiously holding on to the things we have placed in the Universe’s hands, we are basically saying “I don’t trust in this process”. When we don’t trust in the process, it closes us off to receiving all of the blessings and opportunities that the Universe has to offer us. 

Okay, So How Do I Detach?

The key to staying detached is to build a solid relationship with the Universe! Think about it – if we know and understand what we’re working with, it will be so much easier to trust in the process. If you were asked to place your entire future in the hands of a stranger, what would you say? You would probably say no! Manifestation requires deep, unwavering trust. In order to build that trust, you have to build a relationship first. 

You also have to build a strong relationship with yourself! Don’t forget, you are an important part of the equation. If you don’t trust in yourself, you will have a difficult time manifesting the deeper stuff. 

So, How Do I Build A Connection With The Universe?

First, decide how you view the Universe. Do you believe the Universe is conscious energy? Do you believe in a Goddess or God? Maybe the Universe isn’t something spiritual to you. All of these beliefs are fine! What’s most important is that you get clear on your definition of the Universe. 

If you believe in a God/Goddess you may want to begin connecting through ritual, prayer, and devotion. Consistency is key! If you take a more agnostic or atheistic view on the Universe, you should think about how you relate to the Universe. How does the flow of the Universe affect you on a daily basis? It could also help to study how the Universe works! When we understand something, it becomes easier to trust it. 

But I’m Still Anxious! What Do I Do?

Keep focusing on your relationship with your Universe! Ask the Universe to send you signs or confirmation. Speak with the Universe. Write down all of those doubts and fears. It is normal to feel anxious when we are handing over our desires. The most important thing is that we continuously choose to lean towards the path of trust, even when we’re freaked the fuck out!

Happy manifesting and thank you for reading!

The Joy of Detachment

Detachment is an often advised quality to cultivate on the spiritual way. But this advice is frequently misunderstood as remaining cold, aloof, and indifferent toward life. It is anything but.

Real detachment may be recognized by the arising of joy. Detachment, happiness, and contentment are one and the same.

Suppose you really love strawberries and currently have a massive craving for strawberries. It just so happens that you discover a fresh and beautiful carton of these berries in your refrigerator. So you sit down and savor them, one by one.

Someone comes and offers you chocolate, soda, popcorn, all sorts of snacks. But you don’t feel any desire toward any of that because you are so filled with your enjoyment of the strawberries. That is like true detachment.

But that detachment doesn’t come because of strawberries, or anything for that matter. It comes when you discover that your happiness, your peace, your joy, are nothing else but your Self and it is found nowhere else but within.

Then detachment naturally happens toward the transient play of this world and body. It doesn’t mean that you have distain for them or aloofness or rejection. It simply indicates that you are no longer seeking the right things in the wrong places.

In your own company, before mind, body, and ego, shines the company of all beings as the Self; One without a second. Therein is always peace, freedom, and happiness.

This doesn’t mean that you don’t have compassion and love toward the people you meet and the events in life, but you do not depend on them for any form of happiness. Then you can really enjoy what comes since there is no element of need or insecurity involved.

Practice detachment. Remind yourself that all of this need not be taken as the end all be all of existence. Go within, practice meditation and mindfulness throughout your day. Discover the joy that is your awareness endlessly beholding itself.

Then detachment is found to be a blessing beyond all blessings. Thank you so much for reading.

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