Tips For Building A Bucket List Authentic To You

Before I created my own bucket list, I kept looking up bucket lists of others for reference. Soon I realised it’s not exactly the best method because I was prone to just copying things people “should” do in their life. Today I wanted to share some tips on how to build a bucket list that truly reflects what you want:

  • Before you start, really listen to your heart. Basically the only rule to this is making a list of things to what YOU really want to do. My bucket list doesn’t have bunjee jumping or skydiving because it’s not something I want to do, even though they are typical bucket list things.
  • Start with the things you already know. All of us can name at least three things we would like to do at least once in our lives. It can also be a place you want to visit or things you want to get. As an example for me it’s always been getting a dog. This will get you excited and might even bring to life more ideas.
  • Go as big as you want. No matter how impossible the dream may seem, you never know where your life might get you. Write down things you doubt you’ll ever be able to do, because you may surprise yourself later. Don’t give up before you even started.
  • Even the smallest and easiest things count. No goal or a wish is too small for your bucket list. As long as you really want to do it, go ahead and write it down. 
  • Add in life milestones or goals you want to hit. Keep in mind this is not a plan on how to get there, only visual list of things you want. You can write down that you want a house or which school you want to graduate.
  • Add people you want to meet. Who would you love to meet and talk to? Maybe even possibly be friends with?
  • It doesn’t all have to be pleasant. Not all experiences might be pleasant and sometimes you may want to try things that scare you. Break through’s can be on your bucket list too.
  • Keep updating. Feel free to come back and add things, and at the same time don’t feel bad crossing things out. You don’t need to keep things that don’t feel authentic to you. It’s completely okay to grow out of a dream or goal, just make sure it’s not fear getting in the way!
  • Keep the completed ones there so you can see how far you have come. They’ll motivate you to complete more! Plus, it’s good to write down the date of their completion.

Thank you for reading!

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How To Stop Procrastinating

School is back in session and procrastination is on its way to all of our front doors. So, here are some tips to get past this semester and ace every class. Let’s set some high goals for ourselves. We are capable of anything and everything we set our minds to. With some effort, literally anything is possible. So, here goes the tips:

  • Realize that whatever you’re avoiding isn’t as bad as your mind makes it to be. Things are ALWAYS easier once you start doing them.
  • Plan to do a small and not too intimidating portion of the task.-Let’s say you have to read a book for an assignment. Then tell yourself to read 10 pages. Just 10. Later it will turn out to be easier to continue past that but now we need to trick your brain.
  • Count to 3 and GO! This is one of the smallest things that changed my life. When I really don’t want to do something I just count to three and do it. 3 seconds don’t give you time to doubt yourself and be afraid.
  • Change your surroundings accordingly. Try to get rid off as many distractions as you can and at the same time make sure your surrounding isn’t unbelievably boring and depressing. Try playing music without lyrics and try to make your study place aesthetically pleasing.
  • Get your phone away. Either delete your social media apps, turn off your phone, or at least put it out of your reach, or maybe even a different room.
  • Ask someone to check up on you. If you can, ask someone to come and kick you in the butt if they catch you procrastinating.
  • Take breaks that can’t turn into procrastination again. Go for a walk, clean something, or just lie down on the floor but no phone and no scrolling! Nothing addictive or time wasting/consuming.
  • Be kinder to yourself. Beating yourself up over procrastinating and calling yourself bad things will only make you feel shittier and less productive. Be gentle with yourself. Ask yourself to do things nicely.
  • Sometimes it is okay not to be productive. Blogs like mine can make you think that working all the time is the goal. But it’s not true at all. Sometimes procrastination can be a side effect of exhaustion or a mental illness even. Get some rest if you need it.

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Setting Goals & Targets: Don’t Focus On The Destination

There are so many people who decide to set a new year’s resolution after the Christmas period, but never stick to it. Weight loss is a classic, if not stereotypical new year’s resolution to set for ourselves – especially when we feel guilty for over-indulging during the festive season. It’s this thought pattern of guilt, making us feel like we have to go to the gym because we are ashamed of how much weight we have gained in such little amount of time. Too many people try and lose weight for one month (maybe not even that), to get rid of the feelings of guilt, rather than having the determination to incorporate diet and exercise into their routine and making it a lifestyle.

It’s this attitude that gets you results in the long run. When you find eating healthy and exercising fun instead of a chore, you are more likely to stick to your ‘goals’ and make them into a lifestyle. Goals are never about the destination, they are about being open to go on a journey. When you accept that it is a journey, you begin to learn that its okay to have obstacles and mishaps and finally wave goodbye to a fear of failure for good. No one on this planet is perfect and gets everything easy, no matter how ‘perfect’ their life seems to you. Everyone has to go through rough patches in their lives and no one has it completely smooth the whole way through, life just doesn’t work like that – unfortunately. It’s these rough patches, failures and mistakes that make us stronger and without going through them its impossible to grow emotionally, physically and spiritually.

Think about it this way, if everyone was perfect without any flaws at all, none of us would grow and it would make the whole of humanity stagnant and stuck and not going anywhere. Flaws in a way, are a blessing really because they cause us to go inside ourselves, which invites us to go on a journey of introspection and self-discovery. This is the path that heals us from our past to create a more meaningful present and a brighter future in all aspects of our lives. So be accepting to your imperfections, they are much more important to you than the things that you like about yourself. Really think about that because its true.

Another mistake people make when they are setting goals for themselves is to focus on the desired measurement, weight or dress size by a certain time. This is a massive mistake to make because by doing this, you are only making self sabotage your destiny, not the body you’d hoped for. It doesn’t have to be weight loss related either. This happens with any type of goal you’ve set for yourself, but weight loss is a great example. So many people focus on getting the desired weight they desperately want that they lose the enjoyment of it to the point of obsession. This is how eating disorders develop into a viscous cycle that is hard to stop. Instead of obsessing over numbers, gravitate your awareness more to how you feel. When you choose to eat healthy and exercise because it makes you feel good and happy, you care less about statistics and society’s ideals.

Also stop comparing your body or life to someone on social media because this is no good either. When you do this, it encourages you to comparison and self-pity, which definitely doesn’t make you happy at all. Images on social media are heavily adulterated, to the point of them being unrealistic. Doing this will not help you achieve your dreams, it will only hinder it. Stop putting high expectations on yourself and surrender to your own journey. No journey is the same, each and every one of them is unique. Forget about your goals and begin your journey today, in this present moment.

Things to Do Before We Reach 2021

2021 is around the corner, literally. So, it’s only right that we all get a few things sorted before going into the new year. Try to get as many of these done so you can go into 2021 with a clear head space. Well, here it goes:

  • Clean up your phone: delete old numbers, delete apps you don’t use, organise your photo album, fix your cracked screen etc.
  • Clean up your laptop: delete old emails, organise all your documents and files into folders, bookmark websites you use the most etc
  • Pick 3 things you want to achieve in 2021 and write detailed plans on how you are going to achieve them.
  • Evaluate your current friendships and relationships – choose who you want to develop a closer relationship with and who needs to get cut.
  • Get your finances in order: calculate how much money you should have coming in (e.g. income) and going out (e.g. subscription payments), as well as, how much you want in savings by the end of the year.
  • Do an early “spring clean” and de-clutter your living space, organise your wardrobe, start creating the space you want to live in next year.
  • Write a list of your accomplishments this year and pat yourself on the back for all of them – perhaps even write a letter to yourself expressing how proud you are of yourself. Speaking of letters…
  • Send an email to yourself that should arrive one year from New Year’s Day (January 1st 2022, 00:00). Ask how you’re doing? Did you get the job you wanted? Did you make some new friends? It acts as a reminder of how far you will have come, by the end of the year.

Most importantly, even though this year has been…a special one, please try to have some fun. I hope you all are around those you love and who love you. As we look towards the future let us be optimistic and hopeful, and lets collectively kick this years ass!