How To Stay Grounded

1. Breathe, breathe, breathe. Feel your lungs expand as you inhale and deflate as you exhale. Notice how your body changes as life flow in and out of your spirit. Allow it to bring you deeper into your body. Just breathe!

2. Look out your window and smile! Take a moment to appreciate the beauty of the earth. Let in some air, hear the birds, feel the chill of the wind, talk to the trees. Thank Her for all she provides you with. 

3. Move with no judgment or worry. Just feel your body, no matter how broken, tired, or aching it is. It is a safe and sacred place. Touch, feel, soothe, and move through every corner of your body. It is not the enemy!

4. Reconnect with the divine. Meditate, pray, visualize, journey deep into the realm of ritual. Transform this silent time into an altar for the divine. Find magic in the mundane, allow your imagination to guide you.

5. Choose yourself! Choose to feel your emotions, honor your needs, and entertain your desires. Sink into your needs and wants at this moment. What is your mind, body, and soul craving? Choose to honor yourself in every moment.

I hope that you all will find the peace you need! Seek it with all your heart and it will greet you with open arms. Thank you for reading.

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How To Stop Procrastinating

School is back in session and procrastination is on its way to all of our front doors. So, here are some tips to get past this semester and ace every class. Let’s set some high goals for ourselves. We are capable of anything and everything we set our minds to. With some effort, literally anything is possible. So, here goes the tips:

  • Realize that whatever you’re avoiding isn’t as bad as your mind makes it to be. Things are ALWAYS easier once you start doing them.
  • Plan to do a small and not too intimidating portion of the task.-Let’s say you have to read a book for an assignment. Then tell yourself to read 10 pages. Just 10. Later it will turn out to be easier to continue past that but now we need to trick your brain.
  • Count to 3 and GO! This is one of the smallest things that changed my life. When I really don’t want to do something I just count to three and do it. 3 seconds don’t give you time to doubt yourself and be afraid.
  • Change your surroundings accordingly. Try to get rid off as many distractions as you can and at the same time make sure your surrounding isn’t unbelievably boring and depressing. Try playing music without lyrics and try to make your study place aesthetically pleasing.
  • Get your phone away. Either delete your social media apps, turn off your phone, or at least put it out of your reach, or maybe even a different room.
  • Ask someone to check up on you. If you can, ask someone to come and kick you in the butt if they catch you procrastinating.
  • Take breaks that can’t turn into procrastination again. Go for a walk, clean something, or just lie down on the floor but no phone and no scrolling! Nothing addictive or time wasting/consuming.
  • Be kinder to yourself. Beating yourself up over procrastinating and calling yourself bad things will only make you feel shittier and less productive. Be gentle with yourself. Ask yourself to do things nicely.
  • Sometimes it is okay not to be productive. Blogs like mine can make you think that working all the time is the goal. But it’s not true at all. Sometimes procrastination can be a side effect of exhaustion or a mental illness even. Get some rest if you need it.

Thank you for reading.

How To Feel Less Stuck In Life

I don’t know about you but I certainly feel like I haven’t moved forward in life for months! Quarantine has us tied to our beds, seeing the world through windows or screens. Besides for the feeling stuck because of quarantine, we may feel stuck in our current situations. So, here are some small things you can do to feel less stuck where you are:

Go on a fitness journey. Start eating better,, start exercising or try new ways to move your body. Consistency and progress will make you feel better and more productive.

Change your daily routine. It could be just waking up earlier or switching things up in your routine. Breaking the repetitive pattern will help freshen things up.

Pick up a new hobby. Try something completely new or learn a new skill! Again, seeing progress even in smaller parts of life will be so beneficial to you.

Make things with your hands. Cook, make art, and build things. Leaving physical results that you can see behind is progress.

Spend more time with friends. Whether it’s to share new information, practice new skills, or just to get a good laugh.

Take care of something or someone. Take care of your pet, plants, or just help out local nature! Seeing something grow or learn to trust is an amazing feeling.

Thank you for reading.

How to Get and Keep Your Life Together 101

Here’s a list of all the tips, hacks, and advice that stuck with me from reading so many articles, videos and research. Feel free to ask me any questions, or add tips of your own.

Hydration. Make sure you stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water, green tea, and black tea everyday. I know you see this everywhere but it’s true. Just drinking water will do wonders for your skin and your overall health.

Nutrition. Maintain a healthy diet by letting go your toxic, restrictive beliefs on diet and realizing that food is sacred fuel for your body. So, offer your body the best and at lots of vegetables, fruits, nuts, and seeds. Essentially lots of wholefoods.

Incorporate smoothies into your mornings for extra dose of vitamins. Practice mindful, conscious eating, be there in the moment when you are eating, taste the food, and enjoy the experience of it. Meditate over your relationship with food and try to work through any unhealthy beliefs.

Exercise. Pick one or multiple forms of exercise that suits your schedule, lifestyle, and personality. Whether it’s jogging twice a week, going to the gym daily, or even just a fresh walk every evening. Pick what is suitable for YOU and keep it part of your life. Create your own gym routine, hire a trainer, train at home, or in the gym. Whatever works best for you.

Growth Mindset. Maintain a positive mindset that is always open and curious to learning new things, trying new skills, and ever willing to improve itself. Redirect your attention from drama, gossip, and toxic comparison beliefs to healthy ones. Unfollow accounts online or delete all your social media if that’s what you need to do.

Recreate yourself if that’s what you want. Focus on YOUR growth! Make a habit of reading new books, watching TedTalks, documentaries, etc. Look at educating yourself as a way to invest in yourself and a way to honor yourself. Maintain curiosity in your heart for the ways of the universe.

Stay humble and graceful in the face of adversity, but never give up on your dreams, failed attempts are only lessons for improvement, and the only true failure is giving up. As long as you keep going you’re still winning. Bonus tip: comparison is self harm, and a denial of your own power, so remember that nobody can be you and that’s a good thing. You can only be you, so make it count and honor yourself!

Relationships. Don’t cling to relationships and don’t be afraid to lose people. Be your authentic self at all times and do not be afraid to intimidate people or be too much! Those that matter don’t mind, and those that mind don’t matter. Know that the friends and partners that are meant for you will stay, or will find their way back to you. Be mindful of the dynamic in a relationship, and be self-loving enough to walk away from what is toxic, unhealthy, restrictive, disrespectful, etc. Forgive those that wronged you, but tolerate no mistreatment. You can forgive them from afar, but make sure they’re no longer a part of your life.

Focus & Goals. Keep a journal and as frequently as you can, write down bullet lists of to do lists, goals, dreams, daily reflections, aspects of yourself to improve upon, positive affirmations, wish-list etc. In other words, brainstorm all the things whirling around in your head regarding your own life. Remember all those things you’ve wanted to do? Bucket-lists, reminders, curiosities, etc? Keeping a journal, staying focused on your goals, checking progress, and practicing positive affirmations will transform your life.

Fashion. Elevate your wardrobe to a whole other level by sitting down and figuring out what your style actually is. Play around in your journal by creating a collage of your favorite colors, textures, patterns, styles, outfit combos, and accessories. Mix and match and figure out what your aesthetic is. Refine, polish, and thrift what doesn’t click. When you reorganize your wardrobe, you can easily mix and match anything because your wardrobe is already planned out. Bonus tip: do your laundry the same day every week (like Monday for example) and do a wardrobe prep on Sundays for the upcoming week so that at any moment you can be ready in five minutes looking perfectly polished. This avoids the whole ordeal of being stressed, rushed, and not knowing what to wear.

Skincare and hair care. Golden advice: invest in natural products, oils, and ingredients instead of investing in brands. Why? Because otherwise you’re paying for a concept instead of actual health benefits for your body. Try natural soaps, oils like shea butter, coconut oil, argan, avocado, jojoba, or rosehip, and water extracts like rosewater or hazelwater for toner. Coconut oil and argan oil is particularly famed for hair growth and shine. Castor oil as well helps hair growth, including for brows or lashes. Rosehip and shea heal discolorations, scars, and marks. Do your research, try out what fits you, and your skin will thank you later. Bonus tip: if you don’t use sunscreen already, try to incorporate it into your routine. Just make sure it has gentle, non-harmful ingredients for both yourself and the environment.

Etiquette, manners, poise, and posture. Watch videos, read books, or listen to audio books about confidence, proper etiquette, leadership skills, how to make people listen when you speak, etc. There are things which are so intuitive, obvious, and logical, and yet simply becoming aware of them and having the science of it explained will transform your perspective and the way you carry yourself.

Finances. Perform a monthly financial review to make sure you know where you are and what your budget is. Make a plan for backup funds, savings for travels, new tattoos, a house, or whatever you want. It doesn’t have to be complicated, you can keep things simple by listing your expenses in five categories like necessities, groceries, luxury, savings, and remaining funds. Keep track of your expenses or habits. There are even apps that show statistics or analysis for easy use. The point here is to stay on top of your own finances: know how much the monthly necessities are, know what has been payed, and keeping receipts.

Integrity. This means knowing yourself, having standards, knowing what your boundaries are, what you are willing, and not willing to do. When you know yourself and know your worth you won’t ever tolerate or accept anything less. Know what your principles, values, and beliefs are and hold them firmly because it is what you stand for. At the same time, it is important to keep an open mind to growth and improvement, but not so much that any persuasive argument will change your mind. Hold your own, but be gracious to other perspectives. And through it all, remember only you know what’s right for you and what’s best for you. Literally nobody else but you can know what’s in your best interest!

Efficiency & Improvement. This ties in with growth mindset but in a more practical way; make sure that you’re always leaving open space for improvement in your life and don’t ever just settle down, get stuck, or let yourself sink into complacency. Know that you can always change anything! Make a habit of frequently reviewing aspects of your life to see whether there’s anything you can make easier or more efficient. Instead of spending hours grocery shopping, check out shops online where your favorite products can be home delivered in a snap. Instead of driving to a vet for your pet, have a call in visit. Setting up recurring payments for finances also counts. Literally any process or activity whereby you can automatize a service, delivery, payment, etc. will help you in the long run, so you can focus more on enjoying life, instead of wasting time with trivial adult activities.

Thank you for reading!

How To Be Kinder To Others

Being kind is so important. I didn’t always think so, I used to think it’s better to be mean, tough, and heartless. But this type of behavior gets you absolutely nowhere in life. There’s so much more strength in kindness.

I’ve learned that it was hard for me to be kinder to others because I was accustomed to being kind to myself. This part took some healing, but with time I was able to treat myself kindly, and eventually I was able to treat others kindly. Here’s a few kind things you can do, if you don’t know where to start:

  • Properly greeting everyone and always saying thank you and please
  • When someone messes up, be understanding
  • When someone’s doing something, help them if you can, especially if they’re doing it for you
  • Pay full attention to the person talking to you
  • Compliment people on things you like
  • Use your skills to help others
  • Share things you have
  • Apologize when you mess up
  • Smile at people
  • Make small handmade gifts
  • Think kindly of yourself
  • Give yourself permission to slow down

Thank you for reading

Felling Energetically Stuck? 4 Reasons Why The Law of Attraction Hasn’t Worked For You

In the spiritual community, we have all come across the philosophical concept behind the Law of Attraction; whether we have used it or not. The majority of us have, I have to say for one thing or another. Most of the time, we use the Law of Attraction to help us find a solution to problem or current situation. This is where the problem lies when it comes to manifestation. We often use the Law of Attraction in times of desperation, like lack of money, loss of a partner, or job. When it comes to using the Law of Attraction, you have to remember that the universe acts like a mirror; so whatever perception you have of a particular situation, you will receive it whether it is positive or negative in nature.

You often find that many people who use this concept ask for abundance or their soulmate without doing the prerequisites beforehand. This means on a soul and energetic level, you must clear away any negative beliefs and deep rooted fears that reside in your subconscious mind. Negative thoughts and beliefs can creep up into our conscious mind at any point, and they can be about anything that has happened to us. Most of the time, they are negative memories that have been stored into our brain over a period of time. This is known as our inner critic – the root of fear, low self-confidence, and self-sabotage.

Our ego and wounded child use this tactic to keep us in our comfort zone and safe place. However, it doesn’t serve us when it comes to attracting positive things to our lives. Having fear when you are manifesting is like starving a flame from having oxygen – it just doesn’t work. You need to feed your subconscious mind with positive thoughts before you begin to start manifesting things into your life. However, this can take a while, especially if you have had a difficult past, and sometimes it may require the assistance of a professional.

Here are the four main reasons why the Law of Attraction hasn’t worked for you:

1. Using the Law of Attraction out of desperation. As I have just mentioned before, the universe works like a mirror, so when you try to manifest something out of pure desperation; what you desire will become further and further away. This is because the feeling of desperation comes from the essence of fear and control. When we become desperate; we are afraid of losing someone or something out of fear, so we try chase the energetic flow, only to eventually find out that its not going to come into fruition. It is a bit like trying to chase an optical illusion; like a rainbow for instance. It just doesn’t work at all on an energetic level.

Law of Attraction Hack #1: Instead of chasing and being desperate for positive changes, you must remember that you must surrender to the flow of life. When you let go of control and fear, you will become much more lighter and happier, which in the long term will help you attract the things that you truly desire in your life. It’s like what the old saying always says: “Things come into your life when you least expect them”. So surrender to the flow of life and you will begin to see more abundance happening around you.

2. Expecting what you desire to come to you on a plate without physically pursuing it in the real world. This is like asking the universe to give someone their dream job or romantic partner and expecting it to be on their doorstep. In the real world, it just doesn’t work like that unfortunately. You have to do the dirty work first, so that you can receive what you desire. This is particularly the case when it comes to finding the ideal partner. We would rather daydream about them instead of physically going through the dating process because deep down, we find it too overwhelming and stressful.

Law of Attraction Hack #2: Get out there! Let yourself be seen and heard! Do not be afraid or fearful about what you are doing! See it as a positive step forward to where you want to be in your life and within yourself. Whether that is finding a new home, job, or relationship. Whatever it maybe, make yourself known!

3. Being far too specific and unrealistic about what you want from the universe. In some ways, I do think having expectations to some degree or another is a good thing. However, when it comes to manifesting, we can get carried away with the little details instead of focusing on the most important parts. This is very common especially when you want to ask the universe for a lover or a dream home. Remember that perfection doesn’t exist. See the beauty in the imperfections and let go of unrealistic high expectations you may have of yourself and the universe around you. Nothing in this world is perfect.

Law of Attraction Hack #3: Write down your top five most important qualities, policies, values or traits you desire in a person or in a company you wish to work for. You can even use this method to help you manifest your dream family home too. By doing it this way, you don’t overthink and stress over what you desire – you just let go and allow yourself to trust the universe. Simplicity is always the best method when it comes to using the Law of Attraction.

4. Having negative thoughts or self-doubt when manifesting. Much like desperation, having negative thoughts and beliefs when you want to attract something into your life will instantly prevent you from receiving it from the universe. Negative energy and self-doubt do not serve you any purpose – all it leads to is anxiety, stress, and depression. When you tell the universe that you subconsciously do not believe you deserve what you desire you are basically telling it not to manifest it in the real world. Let go of your ego and have faith and trust in the universe. You deserve to have what you want in your life. You deserve to have what will make you happy.

Law of Attraction Hack #4: This is most probably the most challenging hacks on this list so far, as this requires continuous effort to undo the negative beliefs and thoughts that have been ingrained into us when we were children. Healing from these dysfunctional thought patterns can take time and sometimes requires a professional. Try meditating and different healing exercises. When it comes to healing from negative beliefs and past traumas, you want to heal your inner child. This is the center of your insecurities, fear, and doubt. Once you heal from your past, you will begin to attract the things that vibrate on the same level as you.

Thank you so much for reading.

How To Balance you Life

I have always known that I tend to have an extreme approach to life where it’s either “Everything has to be done and it has to be perfect” or “I do not care about anything at all”. You may be sitting in front of your computer, shaking your head and you’re right.. it’s not healthy. So, here are some things that have helped get out of this toxic cycle.

  1. Studies and work should not be your number one priority. Yes, you read that right. No matter how important grades are to you school should NEVER be your number one priority.
  2. Make health your number one priority. I have told you what shouldn’t be your number one priority and now it’s time to give you a good number one! Health, physical and mental, should always be what you put first in life.
  3. Focus on long term happiness. Thinking of your long term happiness could help you fight procrastination at the moment because short term gratification won’t matter. On the other hand you may also realize that studying isn’t what’s making you happy now and it won’t make you happy later and that’s okay too.
  4. Self care is just as important as your work. This one is honestly the hardest for me. Self care is what will get you in working shape without burning yourself out completely.
  5. Things don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to do everything. It’s okay to choose not to do something or to half-ass it. Always having everything perfect while lacking in every other part of life is pretty much the opposite of balance.
  6. Spend time with people. Don’t put school first when it comes to relationships and connections. In 5 years, those relationships and connections will still be there but school won’t.

Thank you for reading!

How Consistently Living In The Past Can Affect Your Present And Future

Since the day we were born, each day that passes becomes a memory that is stored deep within our mind, body and soul. These memories can be good, bad, or even mediocre. It’s the mediocre and average memories that get discarded and forgotten about, whereas pleasant and distressing memories stay for a long time.

Feelings of regret, shame, and guilt from mistakes that have happened in the past are particularly difficult to release and heal from, as they can cause an awful amount of pain and it also requires patience too. Healing from the past is not an easy task at all, and sometimes, if not all of the time, it requires professional help.

The best way to heal from past trauma is to go within and ask yourself what feelings you have when a bad memory flashes back at you within your consciousness. Common feelings are shame, regret, guilt, rage, sadness and anger. You can also start to stir up feelings of self-pity and blame, especially if you’ve made a mistake and upset someone unintentionally.

Writing your thoughts and feelings down when these memories pop up can help you to release and let them go. It can also help you get insight into where those thoughts, memories, and emotions came from originally. Usually, these memories and the emotions attached to them come from the ego, our identity, as well as our inner child.

When you write down these emotions and memories, you’ll begin to notice that most of them start with ‘I’, ‘me’, and ‘my’. These are the words we use when we talk through our ego, and this why it can ruin relationships. It has a self-righteous and selfish nature. Our ego doesn’t recognize other peoples feelings, and that’s why many relationships fail. Always remember that the past is in the past and the only reason why it is still affecting you even to this day is because you keep thinking about.

Sometimes you don’t even try to think about certain situations, but it eventually comes up to the surface by being in your imagination. Sometimes unpleasant memories can come into our consciousness, which can affect our mood, behavior, and thoughts about ourselves for the rest of the day. To overcome feeling controlled by your negative memories try to release and let go of what doesn’t serve you.

Memories are a just form of imagination, they come from the deep depths of our subconscious mind or our inner child, and this is where nightmares and bad dreams can manifest. Nightmares are only fragments of your imagination where there are negative emotions attached to them, such as fear. That can be anything you are fearful of. These fears can start in childhood, when we didn’t get the support or help we needed as children.

Dreams can be a powerful tool to use when you want to go on the path of self-discovery. They can teach us about what scares us, what makes us happy, give us insight into the near future, remind us of our past, and many other things. They allow us to learn to release burdens and heal from them so we can grow psychologically, spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

When you release these memories and the negative emotions, you will begin to feel lighter emotionally and much more carefree and happy. Consistently living in the past will greatly affect your present as well as your future, because you will be constantly stuck in negative beliefs, thoughts, and feelings about yourself which will prevent you from moving forward. This is very common with people who have been cheated on or had their heartbroken in a previous relationship.

When they start seeing someone new, they begin to think about what happened to them in the past and worry about them repeating the same pain or memory in the future. This creates an immense amount of anxiety, insecurity, and fear about your current relationship. You begin to start being clingy, needy, possessive, and jealous towards your partner, which makes them feel uncomfortable and eventually making them want to break up with you.

This type of behaviour is very common in people who have a fear of abandonment, which I talked about in a previous post in detail. Sometimes people with a fear of abandonment can also close themselves up emotionally and tell themselves that they are destined to be alone, unloved, and broken so they avoid getting involved with anyone romantically again, so they don’t have to deal with the pain. This is not true, as everyone who is living on this planet is worthy and deserves to be loved and feel love.

Your ego and your inner critic wants you to believe those negative emotions, thoughts, and beliefs. Think about it this way, if you keep listening to your inner critic and your self-destructive ego, you will be continuously living in a toxic cycle that consists of self-sabotage, self pity, and victimization, which can affect your present as well as the future. Living in your past means you will only ever experience what you already know, you won’t ever allow yourself to open up to something new happening now.

You’ll find a lot of people who have been abused in the past, find it hard to feel secure in their mind, body and spirit, and the world around them. They lose sense of awareness and trust within themselves and others. Most of the time, people who have been abused suffer with distressing symptoms of PTSD, PTRD, CPTSD, anxiety, panic disorder, or depression, which requires professional help from a mental health practitioner.

The key word here is: release. When you allow yourself to release you naturally open yourself up to healing, which helps you grow and leave the past behind so you can live a brighter future. I believe emotional releasing is very underrated, especially when it’s done in a healthy way.

When you release your emotions as a daily ritual or on a regular basis, you start to understand yourself and the people around you better, which teaches you to feel empathy and compassion. This is what makes you grow to become awakened, happy, and free. Do not suffer in silence and bottle up the emotions that have been caused by your past. Instead, try talking to someone, writing it down, just find a way to let it go.

You deserve to be happy now and in the future. Do not let your past mistakes, mishaps, or traumas bring you down. Start believing in yourself today and live for a brighter day, week, month and year and be happy. Thank you for reading!

How To Freshen Things Up In Your Life

Especially with everything going on in the world right now, things can feel very mundane and a bit repetitive. Routines and repetition are great but everybody needs some of change sometimes. Lets get into some ways to freshen things up in your boring old life:

Change your routine. This is probably the simplest way to bring a new, fresh feeling into your day to day. You can add completely new activities or you can just change the order of things. Either way it will feel new and maybe even exciting depending on what you add!

Talk to someone new. Find a new friend! There’s so many ways to meet people on the internet nowadays.

Try something you’ve never done. You can cook a new recipe or try playing an instrument. If you fall in love with it or not doesn’t really matter. What’s important is to try it to figure out what your next step will be.

Learn a new skill. Learning new skill takes time and patience but it will add a long lasting satisfaction to your life and it can really switch up your entire lifestyle.

Try new decor. Bring a new plant into your home or try moving things around in your home to make it look different. Simply move things around until you like it and your space will have new energy.

Change of scenery. Switch up your usual places for certain tasks and activities. Change the place where you read, where you work, or where you work out.

Quit a bad habit. This one is neither simple nor quick, but I had to mention it since it’s one of the best ways to feel like a whole new and better person. Choose a habit that makes you feel bad and do your best to replace it with a good habit.

Change the time you wake up. This is a small change but waking up earlier/later can give you both more time and energy! Figuring out how much sleep you need and when is the best time to wake up for you can significantly improve your life.

Switch up your style. Combine the clothes you have in a new way, change up your hair, and get a crazy pedicure!

Change the way you work out. If you don’t have a way you move your body almost every day, find something you will truly enjoy. And if you do work out, try something new! You can do pilates, jogging, or weight lifting. Dancing and walking are both fun ways too! No matter what you’re doing now, go and try something else. You might even like it more!

Thank you so much for reading!

How To Listen To Your Intuition And Get In Touch With Yourself

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.

Lao Tzu

Do you feel connected to yourself?

Your intuition is a part of yourself. It is always guiding you. However, most of us don’t listen to it because we feel we don’t have a strong bond with ourselves. We don’t trust ourselves, instead we trust everyone except us. To listen to it we need to start getting to know ourselves like a friend. This might sound weird to you, but if we don’t feel connected to ourselves we won’t know how to listen to ourselves either, because your intuition is a part of you. So always ask yourself: am I feeling a connection with myself, with the deepest parts of myself? Do I trust myself?

Talk to yourself

There are many ways to get in touch with yourself again and one of them is speaking to yourself. I know this might sound weird too! But believe me, it works. Talk to yourself about everything that is bothering you. Have a conversation with yourself.

Keep a journal

If you don’t want anyone to hear you then this one is for you! Writing in a journal is like talking to yourself but nobody can hear, so it’s perfect. You can write about anything you like. Write about how you feel, rant about anything, get everything out of your chest. My favorite thing to do when I journal is to list what is bothering me and then list every solution. You will be amazed when you do this, because there’s always a solution you can come up with.

Meditate

When I first started listening to myself I realized I had a lot of fears and it was difficult to differentiate them from my intuition. Remember that you intuition is far away from your thoughts, so they’re not your fears. A way to listen to yourself more instead of your thoughts is meditating.

Do not think for a while:

If you really want to follow your intuition, do not think. Sometimes, when I lose something, I stay in a non-thinking state for a while and ask myself where is it. This has worked for me many times. When we over-think, instead of coming up with a solution, we come up with more problems, this is why meditating is so helpful!

Thank you for reading!

How To Overcome Fear Of Intimacy

The fear of intimacy is a very common fear to have, especially when we’re dating someone or looking for love for the first time after experiencing a break-up. You’ll often find people that have a subconscious fear of intimacy are in love with the romanticism behind the process of falling in love. I like to call this the ‘being in love with love syndrome’.

These people are in love with the ideology of feeling connected to someone on every level, but on the flip side, they are also afraid of showing their true selves because it brings up too much pain. Another trait that these people have is that they have a tendency to search for their soulmate or twin flame, but then once they have found what they’ve been looking for, they runaway from the connection, leaving the other person in the dark.

People who have a fear of intimacy also have a fear of being vulnerable, because they believe that is a sign of weakness. Infidelity and being addicted to dating and relationship hopping is very common with people who have a fear of intimacy.They can also become codependent, needy, possessive, jealous and desperate with the people they get romantically involved with. This can also happen with people who have a fear of abandonment, betrayal and rejection, which are usually linked with fear of intimacy as well. These fears are developed in our childhood, often when our parents fail to give us love, affection, a sense of emotional security and support when we needed it the most.

To overcome this destructive dynamic, you must inward and dive into your past, no matter how traumatic and painful it is for you. Your past has the answers to why you’re suffering now in the present moment. Healing your inner child is the only way you can overcome the fear of intimacy and any other fears you maybe holding on to.

Your inner child and your shadow self are the roots of all fear, anger, shame and guilt. On the positive side, your inner child is the home of joy, playfulness, creativity, curiosity, freedom, adventure, imagination and spontaneity. To access your inner child, you can do guided meditations and self-hypnosis sessions, as well as writing a letter to your adult self from your child self.

This simple exercise can be done by writing the letter in your left hand (or right hand), the hand which you don’t write with, as this engages your subconscious mind. Your dominant hand, will be your adult self, as you are right now in the present moment. It’s very important not to judge yourself or consciously think about what you are going to write, because when you do you’re coming from a place of resistance. The idea behind this exercise is to come from a place of compassion, acceptance, understanding and fluidity.

By doing this on a regular basis, you’ll start to gain insight and discover the root causes behind your fears and phobias that are attached to intimacy, relationships, sexuality and dating. It’s important to remember to not to give up hope, especially when you’re trying to overcome your fears about intimacy. Always have faith in yourself and believe in your own personal power, as this will improve your self confidence and self-worth in all aspects of your life, not just your love life.

The fear of intimacy is easy to overcome, once you know how. Don’t let the fear of intimacy stop you from experiencing the love you’ve always desired, you deserve better than that. You are worthy of being loved. Thank you for reading!

How To Make Your Own Self-Care Routines

Many blogs talk about self-care routines, but these routines aren’t just one size fits all. So, how do you make one that suits your needs? Let me give you some pointers on creating personalized self-care routines:

  • Divide your self care into 3 categories: Body, mind and soul. This is very vague, I know, but hold on I’ll explain.
  • Under the “body” category falls all the physical self care. It can be all those pleasures like that extra scoop of ice cream, or it can be taking care of your body even though it might not always be pleasant. Working out, yoga, and skin care are usually the basics. Sleep also falls under this category.
  • The “mind” category requires knowledge and entertainment. This type of self care includes investing time and/or money into courses, books, and other type of knowledge. Obviously it doesn’t have to involve money, you can learn things on the internet or explore what you already have.
  • The “soul” category is your mental health and well-being. It’s the category that involves taking a day off, watching a pleasant movie, meditating, or making art.
  • Think about each category and ask yourself what you need. You might be in a desperate need of more sleep for your body or you can be bored out of your mind, so you better go and learn something new. Your soul may also be starving or hurting, so don’t forget to pay attention to this part of you.
  • How much self-care do you need? Ask yourself how much of each thing you need. For some people self care can be working out every day and for others it can be watching a movie once a week.
  • Schedule it in. I mean it. Write it down into your calendar. It may seem silly or unnecessary but trust me, caring for you is one of the most important things you can do. Keeping yourself healthy and happy should always be your priority.

Now, go ahead and make your own personalized self-care routine! Thank you for reading.

How To Raise Your Vibration

Have you ever had one of those days where you feel sad, lonely, afraid or even depressed for no apparent reason? If you rhetorically answered yes to that question, you may well be suffering from a low spiritual vibration. Sadly, a lot of people in society today are either spiritually lazy, unconscious or being surrounded by negativity, and this is a shame and it needs to change. 

I believe everyone in this world deserves to follow their bliss and live the life of their dreams no matter what age they are; whether they’re young or old. Many people are afraid of living a life that is pleasurable to them because they tell themselves that they are unworthy of being happy, that they could never be loved by someone dear to them, or they don’t have the belief that they can manifest their desires, hopes, or dreams for the future. 

These are false beliefs that are buried deep within our subconscious mind and our inner child, otherwise known as the ego. These beliefs usually stem from our childhood, when we were just making sense of how the world works while by being guided and cared for by our parents who might have subconsciously let us down without being aware. This means that they might had let a stranger, another family member, acquaintance, spouse, partner or friend be rude or abusive to you as a child and not said anything back to them because of their own fears of confrontation, violence, and expressing their anger inappropriately.

This makes a child feel hurt, unworthy, guilty, ashamed and frightened by the outside world as well as their inner world. This treatment could lead a child to act dysfunctional as an adult, and the more a person does these behaviors, the more likely the viscous cycle will continue and cause destruction throughout their daily life. This consistently damaging cycle can lead the person into a dark, guilty, fearful and shameful place, which can develop into self-sabotage, self-pity, and depression.

Living at low frequencies as explained in this post, does not serve you, the people around you, or the planet. Everyone of us here on Earth has the right to experience miracles, joy, and blessings in our lives. You deserve to live a life that brings you abundance, prosperity, love, and happiness. You are special person that has a beautiful soul and does not deserve to live in pain, suffering, and feelings of worthlessness, anger, guilt, regret, narcissism, or codependency. Your body is a temple, so show it love, care for it and nurture it everyday. There is only one of you living on this planet, that is how sacred and special you truly are.

Thank you for reading!

Why Surrendering Is Good For Us

What does it mean to surrender? Many people believe that the concept of surrendering is to give up and lose all hope and faith, when really it is the complete opposite. To fully surrender, you need to let go of control, fear, and worry. You must allow yourself to be present and flow with the forces of nature.

Sometimes in life, there are circumstances and situations that make us surrender and accept what is happening around us. For example, say a parent, pet, or close friend has suddenly gotten very sick and you are told that there is nothing that can help them recover. It is this kind of situation, although very emotionally challenging, that will put you into a position of surrender and letting go. Losing a loved one like this, can make people fight against the natural process of death, which can only create more stress, fear, trauma and anxiety in the long run.

On the flip side, being able to surrender when you are consistently chasing after your dream job or partner is very important too. When you stop chasing after things that will only give you happiness on the outside, you naturally allow positive things to flow into your life rather than forcing it. By forcing things to happen, this will only lead things to come back to you in a negative way, like feelings of depression, desperation, despair and anxiety.

This is very common within the dating world, as many people crave love, affection, and admiration from others. Some people may crave these things more than others, especially if they have been neglected, separated, or isolated as a child. These people are consistently looking for that love, which they didn’t receive as children and sometimes they can wind up developing a love addiction. These people are driven by the ideology of romanticism in romantic relationships, which can make them have excessively high expectations of others. By letting go of these ideologies and fantasies about love and romance, we can become much more attractive to the opposite sex.

Surrendering also allows us to be fully present and in touch with the real world around us, which stops us from getting hurt or disappointed if our ideas or visions aren’t met. The more we resist against the natural flow of life, the more unhappy and unsatisfied we become.

Knowing the art of surrender is the essential part of finding yourself and inner joy in your life – and remember, surrender isn’t losing all hope and giving up. It is about accepting where you are right now and allowing nature and the universe to lead you down your path without fear or doubt. Thank you for reading!

How To Disconnect From Technology And Reconnect With Yourself

Such a large part of our lives is digital now and I have realized it sometimes makes me feel disconnected from my life and the things I make. I’m not saying technology is evil, it is the opposite. However, sometimes it’s necessary to connect to reconnect with yourself to feel human again. Here are some ways to disconnect from technology and feel real again:

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Connect to your body

There are many ways you can connect to your body, here are a few ideas:

  • Breathing mindfully or meditation. Take time to sit and collect your thoughts but also practice slowing down in your daily activities, doing less, and doing it with presence and awareness. Don’t rush.
  • Move! Yoga is one of my favorite activities to connect to my body, but you can also stretch, workout, dance, and whatever else lets you move your body freely.
  • Physical self care. Do a face mask, run a bubble bath, deep condition your scalp, get a pedicure, book a massage, you get the deal. Do anything that you consider self care.
  • Being naked and getting intimate. When you’re naked you are with the purest, rawest version of your body. Cherish the moments after the shower and admire you truest form in the mirror. Making love and getting intimate is pretty straight forward, simply find pleasure with your body.

Spend time with people technology free

Of course right now, given the situation it’s not possible. However, right when things calm down, make sure to be with someone and really enjoy their company. Even when you’re spending time with family or friends, put the phone away. Some good tips are to make meal times phone free, limit phone use after a certain hour, and taking breaks from social media.

Make things with your hands

Have a hobby that makes you create physical things with your own hands. Something like cooking, sewing, gardening, embroidery, pottery, painting… Being able to see your creations in real life is an amazing feeling.

Sit in the sun

Feeling the sun on your skin grounds you to the earth and connects your body to the universe. Try sun-gazing as soon as you wake up to get the best effects.

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Spend time in nature

There is something about reconnection with nature that always makes me feel at home and real. Walking barefoot on grass, gardening or spending time with animals is just so benefitial for you.

Make food, eat food, and be mindful about it

Preparing food and eating slowly connects you to what you are fueling your body with. Eat food that will do your body good and that you actually enjoy consuming and you’ll feel more connected to your food.

Go through an experience without taking photos

Very often I am the only one not taking photos or videos at concerts. It doesn’t make me a better person in any way. It’s just my decision to enjoy the moment for what it is.

Thank you for reading!

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Difference Between Manifesting With The Ego And The Spirit

Ego says, “If I manifest a new house, a relationship of my dreams, my dream career, more money, and everything I desire, then I’ll finally be happy.” Spirit says, “I am happy now, and that’s why all the things I desire will come to me naturally as a result of my internal state.”

This the reason why so many people can’t manifest or have difficulties with understanding the law of attraction. You can’t look for happiness outside yourself. You can’t wait for a material thing, a person, or perfect circumstances to make you happy. Happiness is an internal state, you can choose to be happy no matter what. You can consciously choose to change your frequency. When you change your vibrational frequency, everything in your life aligns with this new frequency. Real change always comes from within.

You can’t manifest anything in a state of lack. You have to feel full and content within to create anything new without. The Universe always gives you more of what you are focusing on. If you feel like only the external things can make you happy, you’ll always be chasing happiness, you’ll never achieve fulfillment. That’s why you should practice gratitude every single day. It will help you achieve a state of abundance; you will realize how much you already have. Learn how to appreciate every little thing, and your life will be truly magical and full of happiness.

Thank you for reading!

How To Detach

Lets talk about a concept that many of us struggle with. When going through the manifestation process, detachment is often the one thing we struggle with most. ‘Detachment’ refers to the act of letting go of your attachment, obsession, and preoccupation of whatever you’re desiring. 

Why Is It Important To Detach?

Manifestation is all about finding our own power through our relationship with the Universe. It is about co-creating with and trusting in the Universe. By anxiously holding on to the things we have placed in the Universe’s hands, we are basically saying “I don’t trust in this process”. When we don’t trust in the process, it closes us off to receiving all of the blessings and opportunities that the Universe has to offer us. 

Okay, So How Do I Detach?

The key to staying detached is to build a solid relationship with the Universe! Think about it – if we know and understand what we’re working with, it will be so much easier to trust in the process. If you were asked to place your entire future in the hands of a stranger, what would you say? You would probably say no! Manifestation requires deep, unwavering trust. In order to build that trust, you have to build a relationship first. 

You also have to build a strong relationship with yourself! Don’t forget, you are an important part of the equation. If you don’t trust in yourself, you will have a difficult time manifesting the deeper stuff. 

So, How Do I Build A Connection With The Universe?

First, decide how you view the Universe. Do you believe the Universe is conscious energy? Do you believe in a Goddess or God? Maybe the Universe isn’t something spiritual to you. All of these beliefs are fine! What’s most important is that you get clear on your definition of the Universe. 

If you believe in a God/Goddess you may want to begin connecting through ritual, prayer, and devotion. Consistency is key! If you take a more agnostic or atheistic view on the Universe, you should think about how you relate to the Universe. How does the flow of the Universe affect you on a daily basis? It could also help to study how the Universe works! When we understand something, it becomes easier to trust it. 

But I’m Still Anxious! What Do I Do?

Keep focusing on your relationship with your Universe! Ask the Universe to send you signs or confirmation. Speak with the Universe. Write down all of those doubts and fears. It is normal to feel anxious when we are handing over our desires. The most important thing is that we continuously choose to lean towards the path of trust, even when we’re freaked the fuck out!

Happy manifesting and thank you for reading!

The Most Common Misconception About Manifesting and Using The Law Of Attraction

A common error when we use the Law of Attraction is to think that manifesting it’s just visualising and or choosing a method and that’s it.

The word “attraction” has both the words “attract” and “action”, that means that in order to manifest, you have to take action. Yes, you visualise and focus your energy into your goals, but you have to act for your goals to happen.

“Manifesting”, is actually a series of actions that you take that will lead you towards your final goal. 5 million dollars will not be mysteriously deposited into your bank account just by visualising and sending the intention out into the Universe, and the love of your life will not come knocking at your door unless it’s someone you know/used to know.

If you want a relationship, do not just visualise and hope for that person to appear. Go out, meet new people and start living the experiences that are in alignment with the kind of person you want to live.

You want a relationship with someone who’s into art? Go to the movies, museums, concerts, art galleries, idk, visit places related to the kind of art you’re into and The Universe will make sure to put the right people for you to meet until you get to meet your special artist. And that’s with anything you want to manifest.

You want to work on improving your financial situation? Don’t go and ask for advice to your friend who’s more broke than you, or to your friend who expends more than what he can afford. Go and look for the people who know how to take care of their finances well, look for professional advice on finances.

If you want to manifest, do not just write down what you want or put it in your vision board and wait for it to miraculously appear in front of your eyes. Start taking some sort of action, make the changes you need to make to get to where you want to be and The Universe will start putting you in contact with the right people that will present you with the right opportunities that will ultimately lead you to your dream.

Think big and ask for the best, the greatest, the biggest things. You deserve all of them.

Thank you so much for reading.

10 Signs The Universe Is Speaking To You

What is synchronicity and why does it have such an impact on our lives? Well, whether you believe in it or not, synchronicity is a spiritual phenomena, which is presented by experiencing frequent coincidences, names, phrases, numbers or even seeing the same animal regularly (omens). Coincidence, on the other hand , does definitely exist just like synchronicity, but ther’s a slight difference. Coincidences only happen once and one time only, whereas synchronicity is the same coincidence that keeps getting repeated. Now this is when a simple coincidence that happens to us becomes a sign from the higher realms and the universe. This is when we should take note of it and listen to our intuition, rather than ignoring it. The first person to take notice of synchronicity, was Swiss psychiatrist and psychologist Carl Jung, who was talking to a client about a dream they had about a golden sacrab beetle, and before they knew it, they saw one in the window of Carl’s psychotherapy cabinet which was rather majestic considering that species of beetle wasn’t native to Switzerland.

Most people in everyday society believe that synchronicity is utterly meaningless and should be taken as a pinch of salt. However, this is the attitude that feeds mediocrity and unsatisfaction within our lives. By acting this way, we are subconsciously blocking ourselves from experiencing serendipity, joy and blessings that life brings into our path. Ever since we were children, society and our parents have continuously made us believe that the world is dangerous, scary and full of negativity and tragedy. Society doesn’t want you to have a curious mind because society thinks these people have the power to change world instead of conforming like everyone else. So start embracing your inner child and explore the world like you’ve never stepped on Earth before. You’ll begin to see your life as more blissful, wondrous and free, so adopt this attitude and end the cycle of negativity.

1. You keep noticing or hearing their name in random places

Have you ever experienced this? When you consistently hear or see a particular name everywhere on your travels it means that this person male or female, is soon to enter your life in 3D some time in the near future, who will awaken you spiritually and make drastic changes in your life for the better. It can also have romantic connotations as well, which means that they will be manifested as your ultimate lover that you’ve always dreamed of. This is very common with people who are on the twin flame journey, particularly during the seperation stage. The universe gives you these divine messages because it wants you to know that you are still loved by your beloved twin, even though in reality it doesn’t seem like it at all. It’s like the universe is telling you to never give up hope and listen to your higher self.

2. You see angel numbers and sequences on a regular basis

You see numbers like 1111, 777, 888, 111 and many other sequences on a regular basis whether that is on a clock, number plates or telephone numbers. Sometimes you can wake up at the same time every morning or night as well, which often causes many people to freak out. The synchronicity of 1111 is very common within the spiritual community, as it generally means someone special is coming into your life such as a twin flame. However, it can also mean that you are going through a spiritual awakening as well. I have experienced the 1111 phenomena occasionally, but it is not as common for me. My angel number has been 111 for over a year and it continues to be even now. I have also seen 222 and 333 randomly sometimes. These numbers can also represent as a deceased loved one that is trying to communicate with you. See these numbers as a message from a deceased relative that is telling you to keep following your spiritual path and have faith in it.

3. You think of someone and then out of the blue you accidently bump into them

When this happens most people take this as a pure coincidence or chance. This is right, especially when it only happens once and never to occur again. However, when you consistently think of someone and see them randomly on your travels, take note. Do not get this synchronicity confused with stalking, as this can be mistaken very easily. If you keep bumping into someone serendipitously this means that this particular person will have a powerful impact in your life in someway. They can be people you knew in the past or a random stranger you just met yesterday.

4. Hearing a song on the radio that reminds you of someone or scenario that had a significant impact in your life

Have you ever listened to the radio and then a random song plays with lyrics that coincidentally matches up with how you feel about someone or a scenario? I have experienced this several times in my life. This usually happens between soulmates and twin flames during the separation phase of the divine partnership. It is another form of telepathy or psychic communication soulmates and twin flames can experience when they’re not talking to each other in the physical world. Music is created and lead by the emotions and the spirit, so this is why many twin flames and soulmates have experienced this synchronicity while they’re on their spiritual journey to reunite with each other again. 

5. Randomly thinking about someone and they call you or send you a message a split second after

This phenomenon is very common with soulmates, but more so with twin flames. This phenomenon is called telepathy, which means mental communication between two people (whether they are near each other or faraway). Sometimes twin flame or soulmate couples can have telepathic communication – even when they’re on the other side of the world from each other. I have experienced this myself, and I have to confess that I’ve often scratched my head out of pure confusion because the phenomena is just absolutely bizarre. It’s so bizzare that no one would believe you if you told them about it or they would ask for evidence to prove that it exists. Bearing in mind that soulmates and twin flames don’t necessarily have to be a potential romantic partner, but they can also be a relative, your child, sibling, a best friend or parent. However, most of the time twin flames (more so than soulmates) are romantic partnerships.

6. You come across something that fixes a problem that has been worrying you for some time

Have you ever gone into a store or read an article online and then out of the corner of you eye, you suddenly see something that has the answer to a problem that you’ve been desperately wanting to fix? These are epiphanies or miracles from the universe showing you that you can finally break down the blocks that have cause you pain, suffering and anguish. When you see this, the universe is telling you that there is hope and you can escape from what has been holding you back.

7. You meet a stranger that awakens you about a particular aspect in your current life

Throughout our daily lives we meet many people who come in and come out without us consciously thinking about it, but then there’s some people that entered our life in some way that stay in our memory for many days, months, years, decades or even for a lifetime. These people may have been a stranger that helped you or saved your life or that special someone who took your breath away at the first glance of them. These people are usually lightworkers, twin flames, soulmates or your guardian angel that has incarnated on Earth. When you encounter someone like this, you feel an instant connection to them which feels sacred and cosmic. These people are your healers, protectors, divine lovers, soul friends and spirit guides. This why you’ll always remember them for many years. 

8. You consistently see meaningful or sacred symbols

These symbols can be anything that has significant meanings and interpretations or have a religious connection to them. Symbols such as the holy trinity or infinity (lemniscate) are perfect examples of this. If you are on the twin flame journey, whether that is meeting your twin for the first time in 3D or you are currently going through separation you may see synchronicity involving the infinity symbol. When this happens the universe is basically telling you that their love for you is eternal and unbreakable and you should never give up hope even when you feel lost, helpless and stuck. On my twin flame journey, I have experienced synchronicity, especially with the infinity symbol so much so that I decided to buy an infinity necklace because it’s meaning meant so much to me.  

9. You casually find yourself watching a movie that accurately mirrors the story of your life and what you’re going through (or have gone through)

This is a rarer type of synchronicity, as there are not many movies that have been made, which are nearly accurate to your own life story. If you have experienced this before, consider yourself lucky because it’s very, very rare. I believe that this is the most meaningful and poignant kind of synchronicity that I have listed in this post.

10. Reoccurring prophetic dreams about an event or person that will soon be entering your life

This synchronicity is very common when you begin to start waking up spiritually and develop psychic abilities. When you have very profound dreams that are repeated regularly with the same dream, this is known as clairvoyance or psychic vision. You’ll begin to have these at the very beginning of your spiritual awakening and journey. By having these dreams, you are now becoming self-aware of your divine gifts and talents that you can share with the world, rather than ignoring them and pushing them away.

The Power of Emotional Vulnerability

Many of us from a young age are taught not to show our feelings to others by our parents, to help protect ourselves during times of distress in our lives. Society believes that if we show any sign of weakness to anyone, it will only go against us and not benefit in any way. This is somewhat true in context, but this belief does have huge setbacks that come with it. Sometimes in life, there are some circumstances when you have to let go of trying to be a warrior and surrender to your deep inner emotions rather than fighting against them. Telling someone that you feel hurt or allowing yourself to cry in front of someone you love, is never a sign of weakness. By being open to expressing your emotions with someone whether that is a relative, friend, partner or stranger, you begin to develop trust within yourself and with those around you, which takes courage, self awareness and strength. Showing weakness doesn’t mean your weak, it actually shows strength and self acceptance during turbulent times.

Emotional vulnerability is extremely important in all parts of life, especially in close romantic relationships. Couples who never tell each other how they feel in the relationship, usually have a lot of conflict which often leads to the failing of the partnership and ending it on a sour note. However, emotional vulnerability in relationships should always be equal between two people, otherwise it will put one of the partners at risk for emotional manipulation and psychological abuse, which is never okay. If you’re in a relationship like that, please seek out professional help from a counsellor, psychotherapist or psychologist. When both partners are emotionally compatible, this can increase the levels of intimacy, safety and bonding due to the hormone oxytocin, which is released by the hypothalamus in the brain. If you asked people “What does intimacy mean to you?”, they’d respond with the ideology of sex and red hot passion with somebody.

Some of that is true to some extent, but real intimacy with someone is feeling connected to them on all levels of love, not purely sexual attraction. Sexual attraction is needed for procreation, as it is our primal desire to reproduce and without it humanity wouldn’t survive as a species, so it is completely necessary to desire someone sexually. Sometimes, intimacy can frighten a lot of people, particularly men (and some women), because it breaks down the walls around them allowing the other person see them in their raw state, which can be extremely challenging and difficult to do. Think about it this way, whenever you look at someone in the eye it can either feel extremely awkward, weird or even romantic in some cases. Eye gazing, in fact, has shown to be one of the key secrets to finding true love, and many people who have done it have fell in love with their partner almost instantly. People find looking in to someone’s eyes so powerful, that they can actually see and feel all of what a person’s been through in their life whether they are triumphs or tragedies, which can be very overwhelming.

Most people don’t want to show their true selves to others because society made us believe that we should conform just like everyone else. This is wrong and its the reason why there are so many conflicts happening across the world today. People should never be afraid to cry, ask for help, look at someone in the eyes or fear of being seen suffering or in pain. This world needs love not violence so that we can come together and make it a better place. Take this advice on board, and watch your love life, friendships and family relationships advance like never before.

There Are Only Choices; No Good Or Bad

In life there are no right or wrong choices, there are just choices. There’s no good or bad, there just is.

Nothing that goes on in anyone else’s mind can harm you. Nor can the shifts and changes in the world around you. — Then what harm is to be found? … In your capacity to see it. You need to realize that what happens to everyone – bad and good alike – is neither good nor bad.

I can hear you questioning already but hear me out. Look, someone’s good can be another one’s bad. Someone’s right can be another’s wrong. Yes, we have loosely agreed upon ways of being, yes we have preferences and desires, but ultimately there is just what we choose when we choose it. More pointedly, deliberating between choices wondering if they will be good or bad or better or worse is a waste of your time and energy.

You can’t ever truly know what the future holds in store for you– you can only choose something based off of the limited information you have at this time. It might just be “I need money and this seems legit” or you might have a lot more information accessible to you. Who knows? The truth is even the best psychic can only ever give you a reasonable estimate.

When you want something in life, just go for it. Choose to move forward in the direction of your dreams and be 100% in with your decisions. This is taking responsibility for your future and for yourself to know that what’s on the flip side of what you chose doesn’t matter. You are here, choosing this and that’s all there is.

What are you choosing today?

And what are you going to stop thinking about once you choose?

Things To Do When You’re Feeling Lost

Sometimes we forget who we are, what our purpose is in life, and why we are even bother doing the things we do. These thoughts can steer us off track from our path of life. These thoughts are natural, though negative. And you better believe that even the most successful person you know experiences days where they are feeling lost in life. Here are some things you can do to help you get back into your element.

1. Involve yourself in your found family, babysit your niece, call you mom, visit your grandma, throw a dinner party and invite your friends, offer to go grocery shopping for someone whose super busy.

2. Give people little gifts when you can, make people playlists, wrap up books you think they’d like, pack them a lunch or a snack box, give someone flowers, pay for a strangers coffee, smile at people.

3. Speak your mind, stand up for yourself, stand up for whats right, and stand up for others. Speak you heart, don’t be a silent lover, tell people how you feel. Dont let problems build up forever, tell people when your hurting, let people know you need help.

4 Work towards a goal and be aware of your progress, learn to value reconsideration and editing, commit time and energy whenever you can. Become the person you want to be.

5. Stop identifying as your aspiration, there is no goal you can reach that will make you suddenly love yourself. You are a whole person in the present moment.

6. Don’t keep secrets. Keep things private if you need to, but trust those you know you can trust. If your body becomes a locked safe, there won’t be room for a person.

7. Find art you love, paintings, films, books, even knitting patterns. These are how people say things that they can’t put words to, you will learn things about the world that you can’t put words to either.

8. Make. make anything, scribble on sticky notes. Write your future self a letter. Make a bowl out of clay. Cook yourself dinner. Put creative energy into the world.

9. Use your body more. Remind yourself that their is a self other than the one in your head. Exercise, clean you house, feel sunlight, dance, sing.

10. Spend time naked until the way you look seems normal. Stop thinking of your natural state as abnormal.

Why The Law Of Attraction Is Not Working For You And How To Fix It

First things first, the law of attraction is always working. Whenever you claim that the law of attraction is not working, you’re actually using this very law to convince yourself that indeed – it’s not working for you. And that, my friend, is a vicious cycle.

However, you have to understand that there’s so much more to the law of attraction than those hyped steps: ask, believe, receive. It took me some time to fully comprehend the crucial principles, and now I’m going to share them with you.

So, why is the law of attraction ‘not working’?

  • You don’t practice detachment. Pretty often, people become too obsessed with their manifestations. They think about the thing they want to manifest 24/7 and complain about the lack of it. Wrong! Seriously, don’t you have better things to do? Whenever you put something on a high pedestal, you create resistance. Actually, an ocean of resistance. Learn how to detach and trust the Universe.
  • You don’t do shadow work. Take care of the quality of your canvas before you start painting. Oftentimes all of the past traumas and limiting subconscious beliefs are holding you back. Let go of them. Heal them and then move on. You can’t hold on to this kind of negative energy forever.
  • You don’t express gratitude. If you’re not grateful for the things you already have, you’ll never be able to upgrade your life. Lack of gratitude keeps you entangled in the lower vibration. Gratitude is the magical frequency. The more you are thankful, the more you attract things to be thankful for.
  • You’re not specific. If you change your mind all the time, you send mixed signals and receive mixed results. Maybe for the first time in your life, ask yourself these questions: What do I really want? What does my ideal life look like? Vision boards and scripting can be very beneficial because they show the Universe your perfect blueprint.
  • You’re not living in the present moment. If you always think of the past or worry about the future, you lose all of the precious possibilities the present moment can offer. Now is the only existing time in this Universe, so learn how to be more conscious.
  • You don’t work on your vibration. Everything that surrounds you is in the vibrational alignment with your state of being. When your vibration is low, you attract more things vibrating at the same frequency. It’s super important to raise your vibration and to learn how to maintain the higher state of being.
  • You don’t nurture self-love. If you don’t love yourself, if you’re constantly criticizing yourself, it impacts your energy and your entire belief system. This self-hate is going to manifest in every aspect of your life. It’s almost impossible to create anything if you’re devoid of the most important thing: love. And love starts within you.

I would highly encourage you to try some of these strategies. They’ve had a profound impact on my own reality. I’ve started to attract the right people and circumstances into my life. It’s like having a magic wand!

Thank you so much for reading.

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